Signs you're truly in love with someone

Determining if you truly love someone isn't easy, but don't worry too much! Research indicates that the most effective way to know if you're in love is to pause and objectively assess the relationship. To start, pay attention to the emotions you experience when you're with that person. Do you feel more generous, willing to make an effort for them, and genuinely happy when they succeed? If your answer to all of these is "yes," then you might truly be in love!

Love certainly isn't always easy to recognize, but when you pay attention to the small signs in how you feel and act, you'll get a clearer answer. Try to take time to observe and listen to your own emotions in this relationship – who knows, you might find the answer for yourself!

Method 1: Are You in Love with Someone? 9 Signs to Help You Understand Your Feelings

Sign 1: How to Recognize True Love? Look Back at the Development of Your Feelings

Love doesn't always ignite at first sight – sometimes, it grows over time, from the smallest and most nebulous feelings. To know if you are truly in love with someone, start by looking back at the development of your own emotions.

Try to recall the first time you met them. How did you feel then? Perhaps a little nervousness, a glance that made your heart pound, or simply a pleasant impression. But what's more important is whether that feeling has changed over time. Do you now feel more connected, willing to share, and deeply concerned for that person?

Real-life example:

You might have once thought you just had a "crush" on a male colleague because of his friendly smile. But after working together many times, sharing joys and sorrows, you realize you always want to listen to him, are willing to be there when he's tired, and feel happy when you see him succeed. That's a clear sign that the initial feelings have developed into true love.

The concept of "love at first sight" is often just a fleeting infatuation with appearance or a certain charm. True love, however, requires time to nurture – it comes from understanding, sharing, and deep connection between two people.

If you notice your feelings becoming deeper and more genuine, it might just be the true love you're looking for.

Sign 2: How to Assess True Feelings: Listing the Pros and Cons of That Person Helps You Better Understand Love

If you're confused about whether your feelings for someone are true love, try a simple yet very effective method: write down a list of their pros and cons. Seeing everything laid out on paper will help you assess your feelings more objectively.

Start by thinking about what you like about them. This could be their appearance, personality, how they treat you, or moments that make you feel warm and secure. Then, honestly acknowledge what you don't like – perhaps small habits, how they react in certain situations, or something you feel isn't quite right.

Suggested examples:

• Pros:
  • Pleasing appearance, always dressed neatly
  • Kind, cares about others' feelings
  • Someone you can comfortably talk to for hours without getting bored
  • Ambitious and strives in their work
  • Listens and respects your opinions
• Cons:
  • A bit messy, often forgets to clean up after working
  • Sometimes acts childish, gets upset for no reason
  • Tends to rely too much on you when facing difficulties
  • Lacks initiative in maintaining the relationship
  • Not good at expressing emotions verbally

When you review this list, you might feel discouraged by the cons – that's completely normal. But the important thing is to ask yourself: Even recognizing those imperfections, do you still want to be with that person? If the answer is "yes," then your feelings for them have very likely gone beyond a temporary infatuation.

Small tip: Do this exercise when you are truly calm and not swayed by immediate emotions. The more detailed you write, the clearer you will understand your own feelings.

Sign 3: How to Know if You're Truly in Love or Just Idealizing? Analyze the List of Pros and Cons

After listing their pros and cons, the next equally important step is to review and analyze them objectively. This is when you need to ask yourself: Am I loving their true self, or am I just loving an idealized image in my mind?

1. Circle or highlight the pros that make your heart flutter

Clearly identify which qualities truly make your heart sing – it could be their kindness, how they listen to you, or their patience when you're going through a tough time. These are the deep emotional connections – transcending appearance or fleeting attraction.

2. Mark the cons that don't affect your feelings

True love doesn't demand perfection. You can overlook their slight messiness, or occasional childishness, if you feel it doesn't diminish your affection for them. These seemingly negative details that you still accept are proof of forgiveness – an essential part of love.

3. Analyze the reasons – trivial or significant?

Ask yourself: are the points you listed temporary, something that can change over time, or are they long-term, inherent traits that are difficult to change?

Example:

• If you “like them because they're fun to talk to” but can't imagine a future with them – that might be affection, not yet love.
• But if you feel you can accept their messiness because you value their kindness, sincerity, or life direction – it's very likely that's true, mature love.

Real-life example:

You're in love with someone who always makes you laugh, but is sometimes forgetful and irresponsible at work. If that doesn't cause you serious disappointment, and you still believe they can mature over time – then the feelings you have go beyond superficial admiration.

Conversely, if you only feel comfortable with them but can't imagine a future with them, perhaps those feelings aren't deep enough to be called love.

Final message: True love is when you see both the good and not-so-good sides of that person – and still choose to stay. If you cannot accept their "whole self," including their imperfections, then those feelings might still just be a fleeting infatuation.

Sign 4: Deep Empathy for That Person – A Clear Sign You Are Truly in Love

One of the ways to know if you're truly in love with someone is the level of empathy you have for them. True love isn't just about caring or liking to be together; it's also about the ability to feel the other person's emotions as if they were your own.

Try to recall moments when you heard them share something — perhaps a sudden joy, or a deep sadness. Did you feel happy for them when they talked about a small success at work? Or feel heartbroken when they experienced a loss?

Real-life example:

If one day, they tell you their grandmother just passed away and they tear up — and you, unable to control your emotions, also shed tears — that's not mere pity. That's a sign that their pain has touched your heart. And that very empathy is a clear indication that you are in love – because you not only care, but you also connect with them emotionally on a deep level.

What is empathy in love?

• It's when you feel truly happy because they're having a good day
• It's when you secretly worry if they show signs of tiredness or sadness
• It's when you can't be indifferent to their pain, even if it's not directly related to you

Mere affection will make you care, while true love will make you feel.
Empathy is a very deep connection – it cannot be forced or faked. If you find yourself often having strong emotional reactions to their stories, believe that love has long been budding in your heart.

Sign 5: Do You Genuinely Miss That Person or Is It Just a Crush? How to Recognize Through Feelings When Not Together

One of the clearest ways to check if you truly love someone is to listen to your own emotions when they're not around. True love isn't just present in moments of closeness; it also subtly lingers in distance, emptiness, and longing.

Ask yourself honestly:

When you say “I miss you,” do you truly feel that in your heart, or are you just saying it because it's what's expected?

1. Does the longing come from the heart or is it just a habit?

If you genuinely want that person to be present in everyday moments — like when you're eating good food, watching an interesting movie, or have something fun you want to tell them first — that's a strong sign that you're in love.

Conversely, if you feel comfortable enjoying time alone, eager to make personal plans whenever you're not together, or feel nothing is missing when they're absent — then your feelings might only be at the level of "liking" or "having a crush."

2. Real-life example:

Have you ever walked alone and involuntarily thought: “I wish they were walking beside me”? Or when you see a cute coffee shop, do you immediately want to take them there next time?

If such thoughts come naturally and frequently, it's a sign of a deep emotional bond – a crucial foundation of true love.

3. Love needs presence, even in the mind

Love isn't just a feeling when together, but also a distinct absence when they're not around. If they are always in your mind – not in an obsessive way, but as a warm presence – then perhaps your heart has chosen them.

Tip: Try writing down your feelings for a few days without seeing them. Do you feel longing, absence, or simply... normal? That very feeling will be the most honest answer.

Sign 6: Are You Truly in Love? Try Imagining That Person in Your Future Plans

True love doesn't just stay in the present. One of the deepest signs that you are in love is when you can imagine a long-term future with that person – even if that future holds unexpected challenges, changes, and fluctuations.

Take time to seriously think about your life in 5 or 10 years.

• What will you be doing?
• Where do you want to live?
• What will your career be like?
• Do you envision that person accompanying you through those stages?

1. Is their presence in the future natural?

If in important plans – from starting a family, having children, moving to a new place, to career – you subconsciously or actively place that person in the role of companion, that's a sign that you consider them an indispensable part of your long journey ahead.

2. Are you willing to face difficulties with them?

True love is when you not only love them when things are going smoothly, but also can imagine (and are ready) to be by their side when things get tough.

• Can you imagine yourself caring for them when they're sick, or them holding your hand when you're distraught?
• Do you feel at peace thinking you'll overcome financial crises, unemployment, or a major life change together?

3. Real-life example:

You're building your career and hope to work abroad in a few years. If you immediately think, "Can they come with me?", "How much will I miss them if we're apart?", or "Can we build a new life together somewhere far away?" — then clearly that person has become part of your long-term vision.

Conversely, if you only see this relationship as suitable for the present, but cannot imagine them in your future life – that might be a sign that you are not truly emotionally attached.

Tip: Write down a few specific scenarios like "Ideal vacation with them," "A normal day 10 years from now," or "When one of you faces difficulties." The emotions you feel when imagining these scenarios will reveal a lot.

Sign 7: Does That Person Make You Better? A Sign You Are Truly in Love

Love is not just an emotion, but also personal growth – when someone enters your life and gently makes you a better version of yourself, without force or constraint.

To recognize if you are truly in love, ask yourself:

Has that person ever made you do something new, think differently, or discover a positive aspect of yourself that you hadn't recognized before?

1. True love is when they inspire you to change

Not to completely change who you are, but to broaden your worldview, change your habits for the better, or simply help you love life and live more meaningfully.

Real-life example:

You used to be quite busy, with little interest in nature. One day, they invited you to join a tree-planting project on the weekend. Initially, you only agreed because you wanted to spend time with them. But then, you unexpectedly felt the peace from nature, felt light-hearted doing something for the environment, and even later proactively learned more about a green lifestyle.

That's not just an experience, but a change stemming from genuine feelings for that person.

2. Some common signs of positive change:

• You start listening more, instead of just reacting
• You learn to be patient and forgiving, even when you disagree
• You become more conscious of your health, mind, or the environment
• You learn to express emotions and care for others more

3. Does that change make you feel grateful?

If that person inspires you to live more positively and you feel grateful for their presence in your life, then it's very likely that's love – not noisy but profound, not forced but powerfully influential.

Tip: Write down things you've done or thought differently because of them. If most of those things make you more mature and optimistic, then you've probably fallen in love with them – in a very beautiful and natural way.

Sign 8: True Love or Just a Crush? Look at Your Feelings When Doing Mundane Things with That Person

One of the subtle yet extremely effective ways to know if you are truly in love is to observe your emotions during ordinary, even mundane moments. True love doesn't require glamorous moments – it reveals itself most clearly through simple joy in everyday small things.

1. Ask yourself:

When doing uninteresting things with that person – like going to the supermarket, waiting in line to pay, cleaning the house, or simply sitting next to each other doing nothing – how do you feel?

• If you suddenly find those tasks become lighter, more interesting, or simply pleasant because they are beside you, then you are very likely in love.
• Conversely, if you feel bored, annoyed, and want to do something else, especially when the excitement is gone if they don't proactively suggest it, then your feelings might only be at the level of "having a crush."

2. Real-life example:

You used to hate crowding at the supermarket on weekends, but one day, they asked you to go shopping together and you were eager to make a shopping list, even finding joy in debating which type of noodles to choose. Or like those house-cleaning sessions you once considered a "nightmare," suddenly became quality time because they were cleaning, telling stories, and laughing together.

Their presence made a mundane task pleasant.

3. Why is this important?

Lasting love exists not only in happy or exciting times, but also in the fact that you want to be with them even when nothing special is happening. If you feel light, peaceful, or even look forward to the small things every day just because they are experiencing them with you, then that is genuine love, without embellishment.

Tip: List some daily activities you've done with that person. Your feelings when doing them – boredom or eagerness – will reveal a lot about the level of emotional attachment between you two.

Sign 9: Is Jealousy a Sign of Love or Obsession? How to Recognize Your True Feelings

The feeling of jealousy is often labeled as negative, but if you listen to your emotions subtly, you can realize that true love is quietly blossoming within these seemingly negative reactions.

1. Healthy jealousy – a signal of genuine affection

Try to recall your feelings when you see your beloved chatting comfortably with someone of the opposite sex, or when someone openly flirts with them.

Do you feel annoyed, a little anxious but still in control?

Do you wonder if they still care about you as much as before, and do you wish to be closer to maintain the connection?

If so, that is healthy jealousy – a natural reaction of love. It shows that you value the relationship, you fear losing them because of genuine feelings, not because of your ego.

Real-life example:

One time you saw your beloved happily texting a colleague of the opposite sex. You felt a slight pang in your heart, wondered for a few minutes, but then instead of getting angry or interrogating them, you chose to talk gently and express your desire for more attention. That shows you are in love – jealous, but because you want to keep them, not control them.

2. When does jealousy stop being love?

If you start to:

• Check their phone, social media
• Doubt every action, even without clear evidence
• Feel out of control, excessively angry just because they have friends of the opposite sex
• Or want to possess all of their time and emotions

Then it's likely you are no longer loving in a healthy way. That feeling has turned into insecurity or obsession, not the foundation of a lasting relationship.

3. How to differentiate clearly?

• Healthy love: Jealousy but still respecting personal space, willing to communicate to understand each other better
• Crush or obsession: Jealousy to the point of suspicion, wanting to control, or feeling deeply hurt when they are simply friendly with others

Tip: Write down your feelings in situations that easily trigger jealousy – for example: they go out with friends, someone praises them, or they talk about someone of the opposite sex. This will help you understand the true nature of your feelings – whether it's love, or just the fear of losing an ideal image.

Method 2: Unconscious reactions that show you are in love

Reaction 1: Subtle signs that you are in love: When you both always look for each other in a crowd

Sometimes, true love is not expressed in clear words or gestures, but quietly hides in very ordinary moments. One of them is when you temporarily separate from your beloved in a large group of people, and then unconsciously... search for a familiar gaze in the crowd.

1. Try to "distance" yourself from them for a while

When at a party, a gathering with friends, or a group activity, try not to stand next to your beloved. Instead, mingle with everyone, chat normally as if they weren't there.

But if during that time, you still unconsciously glance around the room to find them, just to see what they are doing, if they are smiling, if they are looking at you... then that is a very clear emotional reflex: you are emotionally attached to them.

2. When eyes meet – a meaningful moment

If you accidentally catch your beloved also looking your way, and you both smile slightly – without even needing words – then it is very likely that an emotional bond has formed from both sides. Love sometimes begins with such awkward, yet meaningful glances.

3. Why is this small moment important?

• It shows that you feel something is missing when they are not around
• It proves they hold a special place in your mind, even when there are many people around
• And if they also look for you in that space, then it's a two-way emotional connection

Real-life example:

At a friend's party, you chat with others but constantly listen for your beloved's laughter or voice, then secretly glance over to see if they are happy. Afterward, you catch them also looking your way, and you both share a gentle smile.

This moment, though small, is a strong signal that the feelings are no longer one-sided.

Tip: Recall the last time you and your beloved were in a crowded place. Did you constantly look for them with your eyes? Did they unconsciously do the same? If so, that is a beautiful sign of budding love.

Reaction 2: What do your body's reactions say about your feelings? Distinguishing between initial infatuation and true love

When facing someone who catches your attention, your body often has unconscious reactions: your heart beats faster, your palms sweat, your cheeks flush, or you suddenly fall silent because you're worried about what to say. This is a very common phenomenon – and a clear sign of infatuation or a temporary "crush," rather than true love.

1. Common physiological reactions when you have a "crush":

• Heart beats fast, hard to control when they are near
• Feeling nervous, anxious about your appearance or way of speaking
• Sweaty hands, red face, a feeling of "awkwardness" even when nothing specific has happened
• Sometimes pausing in communication, afraid of saying something silly
• Mind "obsessed" with small gestures from them

These reactions occur mainly because the brain releases dopamine and adrenaline hormones, making you excited and stimulated – like standing before something new and very attractive.

2. This is infatuation – not yet love

A slight "disorder" in emotions when near someone you are attracted to is completely normal. However, if you only feel these intense initial reactions without a strong emotional connection, shared understanding, or desire for long-term commitment – then you might be in the "crush" phase, not yet in love.

Real-life example:

The first time you chatted with them, you felt your hands tremble, your face flushed, and you didn't know what to say, even though you are normally very confident. That's a feeling of attraction – but if a few weeks later you are still just nervous and don't feel comfortable or safe with them, then it's very likely you're not truly in love, but just "liking" them due to temporary charm.

3. When is it true love?

Love comes when you overcome the feeling of awkwardness, and instead feel a sense of peace when you are with them.

• You don't need to polish every word, because you know they understand you
• You can be yourself, without feeling pressure
• You want to accompany them in big and small matters, not just want to impress them

Tip: Observe your emotions and body reactions after knowing them for a while. If things gradually stabilize, but you still want to be with them and become more attached – then love may be developing in a more mature and sustainable way.

Reaction 3: Selective generosity – a subtle sign that you are truly in love

One of the less noticed but very reliable indicators that you are in love is the level of generosity you show towards that person – not superficial, but a genuine sharing of things you truly value.

1. Are you willing to share things you cherish deeply?

Try to think of a situation like this:

They want to borrow a special item – for example, a precious book you've kept for years, an antique you won at an auction, or a shirt you absolutely love.

If you don't hesitate to share, or even proactively offer for them to use it – then that's not just trust, but also a sign that you consider them "a part" of your personal space.

2. Generosity is a measure of attachment

• With strangers, you keep boundaries
• With close friends, you share what's necessary
• But with someone you love, you don't hesitate to share even things you consider "untouchable"

Real-life example:

You just successfully bid on a rare collectible. They ask to borrow it for a few days to take pictures or display temporarily. If you hesitate and then refuse immediately, you might not trust them enough. But if you nod with a gentle smile, even carefully wrapping it for them to carry easily, that's a clear sign of genuine affection.

3. Love is when you find joy in giving

Not because they need it, but because you want them to be happy, because they are more important than the item. That action is not just about sharing material things, but sharing emotions, personal space, and trust.

Tip: Ask yourself:

• Am I willing to lend them my favorite headphones?
• Do I share food, familiar items, or private time with them?
• When they borrow something valuable, do I feel annoyed or ready to share?

If most of the answers are "yes" and you don't feel regret, then your feelings might have gone far beyond mere "liking" – that is love.

Reaction 4: Gentle sacrifice – an important measure to know if you are truly in love

Love doesn't necessarily have to be grand gestures or great vows. One of the clearest signs that you are truly in love is when you willingly sacrifice small things for your beloved, without feeling coerced or regretful.

1. Sacrificing for love doesn't mean giving up yourself

Many people mistakenly believe that love means enduring, sacrificing careers or personal freedom. In reality, healthy sacrifice in love is shown through your proactive prioritization of your beloved, especially in unexpected, less pleasant situations.

For example: Your beloved is sick on the weekend – right when you're eagerly preparing to watch your favorite movie. But you don't hesitate to set aside your plans, cook a bowl of porridge, buy medicine, and be by their side, simply because you want them to feel better.

If that action comes naturally, without calculation, without feeling "disadvantaged," then your heart may have truly placed them in an important position.

2. When love is measured by priority

• You are willing to go a little further, wake up earlier than usual to help them
• You put aside personal interests when necessary, just so your beloved can be more comfortable
• You feel their joy is also your joy, and vice versa, you want to do good for them not out of obligation but out of affection

3. Conversely, a reluctant feeling is a sign that you are not truly in love

If, when faced with a similar situation, your first reaction is annoyance, complaint, or you only help with a forced attitude, then it's very likely you don't have enough emotional attachment. That could be superficial concern, or because you're afraid of losing face – but not deep love.

4. Love is when sacrifice becomes joy

You don't do it to be recognized, but because your heart wants to do it. In fact, you might even feel happy to be there for them when they need you.

Tip: Recall the times you put your beloved before yourself. Did that action come from coercion, responsibility, or from natural emotion? The answer will help you see the sincerity of your feelings.

Reaction 5: Unconscious imitation – a small but notable sign when you are in love with someone

Have you ever noticed yourself unconsciously mimicking their actions, like raising a cup to drink at the same time, nodding in rhythm, or laughing when they laugh? If so, that could be one of the subtle signs that you are attracted – and potentially in love.

1. Behavioral imitation – an unconscious reaction of emotional connection

According to psychologists, when we have affection for someone, our brain automatically activates a mirror response – causing us to imitate their body language, gestures, and even their way of speaking. This happens without you even trying.

For example: You raise your coffee cup at the same time they do, cross your legs like them, or repeat a phrase they often use in conversation – all are positive expressions.

2. Imitation is an expression of comfort and bonding

• You only do this when you are truly relaxed and open with the person opposite you
• Your brain sees them as "safe," trustworthy, and close
• Mirroring behavior shows that you want to synchronize and connect deeper

3. This is not necessarily love – but it's a step closer

Unconscious imitation is not a definitive sign that you are in love, but it is a positive indicator that emotions are developing towards attachment. If accompanied by signs such as:

• You care about their feelings
• You want to share time and space
• You tend to prioritize them in small choices

Then it's very likely that love is forming from such simple things.

Real-life example:

One day while having coffee with friends, you realize you often raise your cup at the same time as them, or start using the phrase "That's so logical!" – their catchphrase, without even realizing it. That's a sign that you have synchronized and are more influenced by them than you think.

Tip:

Reflect on some recent conversations or the last date.

• Do you often laugh along, adjust your posture like them, or mimic any small habits?
• Do these things make you feel comfortable and natural, not forced?

If so, you are taking very gentle first steps – on the journey to becoming someone's "beloved."

Reaction 6: Your reaction to their success – a sign that shows whether you truly love or not

One of the real challenges in love is the feeling when your beloved achieves success, especially when that success might affect you or is related to your own dreams and ambitions. How you react emotionally will tell you whether you are truly in love.

1. Does their success make you happy?

Try to think of a practical situation:

Your beloved is nominated for a position you've always longed for, or achieves something you are striving for.

If your first reaction is to want to celebrate, feel happy and proud for them, and even enthusiastically congratulate them, then you might be in love. In love, their happiness is also your happiness. You are willing to prioritize their joy without feeling jealous or sad.

2. Jealousy or disappointment – signs that are not love

Conversely, if you feel disappointed, jealous, or threatened by their success, it could be a sign that you only have a "crush." You feel the distance between you and them growing, and instead of being proud of them, you feel sad and don't want to interact with them. This is not love, but rather a lack of self-confidence or just temporary infatuation.

Real-life example:

Suppose your beloved has just been promoted to a position you've worked hard to earn. If you feel happy for them, proactively congratulate them, and think about how to throw a small party for them, that's a sign of love. But if you just mumble "That's great!", then feel discouraged and avoid them, you might not truly love them – but are just in the "crush" phase or feel uncomfortable due to your own insecurity.

3. Love is when you put their joy above your own

Love is not just celebrating when they succeed, but also being willing to support them when they face difficulties. You are not only happy when they win, but will also be by their side during challenging times, expecting nothing for yourself.

Tip: Ask yourself about your true feelings when your beloved achieves success:

• Do you genuinely feel happy for them?
• Do you feel proud when they achieve something you long for?
• Do you put their happiness before your own feelings of disappointment?

If most of the answers are "yes," that could be a sign you are truly in love.

Reaction 7: Introducing your beloved to family and friends – an important sign of true love

When you bring your beloved into your world, it's a strong sign that your feelings have deepened. The fact that you want your family and friends to like them shows that you consider them an important part of your life and intend to commit to them long-term.

1. Do you want your beloved to meet your family and friends?

Try to think about the first time you considered introducing your beloved to the important people in your life.

Do you feel excited and want your beloved to meet your family and friends, not just because you want them to be close but also because you want to share this special person with those you cherish? If you do, this could be a sign of love.

When feelings are truly deep, you will want your beloved to become part of your social network and will feel proud to bring them out. You don't just introduce them as a "friend," but as someone you can commit to long-term in your life.

2. The importance of acceptance from family and friends

• Do you feel happy when your family and friends like your beloved, or are you worried they won't get along?
• Is getting acceptance from your family and friends very important to you? If you not only want them to meet but also strongly desire them to be liked and integrated, then this is a strong indicator of love.

3. Conversely, if you keep your beloved "a secret"

If you're not ready to introduce your partner to the important people in your life, or you feel hesitant at the thought of them meeting your family or friends, it might be that you're not truly in love or you're still worried about the future of the relationship. In love, sharing your partner with those close to you is an act that shows you are looking for longevity and are ready to connect your two worlds.

4. Love is when you want your partner to be a part of your life

When you love someone, you don't just love them, but you also want them to integrate into your world – from friends to family. You feel happy when you see them bond with the people you love, and you are sure they will bring joy to your family and friends.

Suggestion: Have you ever wondered:

• Do you truly want your family and friends to love your partner?
• Do you feel happy introducing them to the important people in your life?

If you have these feelings, your love might be developing steadily.

Author: Chloe Carmichael. Translator: Margaret N.

Source: Wikihow. Copyright belongs to: Kallos Vietnam.

A little about the author Chloe Carmichael

Dr. Chloe Carmichael is a renowned clinical psychologist with over a decade of experience in helping individuals and couples overcome relationship difficulties, manage stress, and develop their careers. She currently runs a private practice in New York City, where she provides counseling and coaching services to those seeking improvement in these areas.